It seems unfortunate that my second "Things That Bother Me" post was also inspired by stupid things people have put on facebook. In this case, though, I was inspired by a happy situation turned sad.
I'll talk about that last, though.
LISA'S LIST OF THINGS THAT BOTHER ME... AGAIN...
1. The phrase "Husband and Wife"
I honestly can't explain why, but every single time I hear a significantly older person say the words "husband and wife" I cringe and die a little inside. I think it's because a good majority of the time that an old person has said this to me, it's in some sort of wonky advice that I'm not ready for just yet. I've had this weird sort of stigma against old people giving younger people advice. Not necessarily because I think the older people are wrong, but because a lot of the time, times have changed. Things that worked for them aren't always going to work for the younger generation. I mean, they can give advice to those who are younger, within reason, but if I'm 18 and you're almost hitting 70, your situation-specific advice to me probably isn't going to help much. I mean, I'm kind of an offbeat person. Conservative advice isn't my forte, and that's generally all the old people in my life have to give me.
I love the older people in my life, but it's my life. And if your advice applies and is solid, then yes I will take it... but... guuhh...
Anyway. Every time an older person uses that phrase, I just think "Why can't you just use different words?"
2. People who change their relationship status on Facebook as a joke.
I understand if you're a close friend with someone. I love having a lot of close friends. But please. Don't be in a relationship on facebook with them if you're NOT ACTUALLY IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM. It's bothersome. It is incredibly misleading and really annoying, especially because I find that those who do it, are usually the really desperate single girls who never get any guys BECAUSE they are so desperate. Those kinds of girls irk me. The only thing they have to talk about is how they're lonely, and how "You should be SOOOOO happy you have someoneeeeee~"
I'll admit, I've been that kind of desperate girl before, and although it isn't something I'm proud of, I still never set my facebook relationship status to anything other than the truth.
AND LASTLY!
3. Parents who parent.... on Facebook.
A parent who parents over FB is NOT a parent who posts their kid's pictures on their wall. A parent who parents over facebook is a parent who does things like... like posting little parenting messages on their walls.
My mom once told me to go to bed via facebook because I was online at about 3 AM and she noticed that I had posted a status. That's different. It's when you full on give your children public talks about things you don't like about what they're doing with their lives that bothers me.
This stemmed from my friend's newly found relationship. She posted a status about missing her boyfriend, and her mom unloaded completely on her, giving her a full "Sex-until-marriage" speech right there in public.
I don't think her mom intended to do any harm. The speech was well within her rights as a parent... But the status was so innocent. It lead me to believe this wasn't the first time her mother was using this speech with her, and in a world where people judge you pretty intensely for these kinds of things, I just... I just felt sick. Not because of what could possibly be a girl who has made unorthodox decisions, but because of her mother's public attitude toward it. If I were struggling with something like this, I wouldn't want my mother to post about it on my facebook. That's just unnecessary and scary and rude and all sorts of things that make me sad. I know her mother wasn't trying to do any harm, and in fact was trying to help, but honestly, I just... I felt so sick thinking about this poor girl and what her mother's incredibly public sex talk was doing to her emotionally.
If you're a parent, please. Keep those kinds of things between you and your kids. If you are a kid, please be open to communication with your parents, lest everyone in your facebook life be involved in the situation as well.
<3 Lisa
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